DEALING WITH CHANGE
Phew! There is so much happening at the moment. The US elections – the UK second Covid lockdown – and Christmas is around the corner.
If you are a worrier ‘by nature’ there is much for you choose from! Dealing with change is scary and scary changes are happening.
CHANGE IS UNCOMFORTABLE
If you feel uncomfortable about change – don’t beat yourself up about it. You are supposed to feel uncomfortable. There is good reason.
Your brain sees change as threat and it tries to protect you. Think about it. What worries you the most? You don’t know what is going to happen. Will it be good? Will It be bad? If it’s bad will you be able to handle it? – WILL YOU BE ABLE TO HANDLE IT?
UNCERTAINTY – ARGHHHHH!
From an evolutionary and survival point of view – there might just be a sabre tooth tiger around the corner so your brain wants you to stay right where you are – SAFE!
Unfortunately, we often don’t get a choice. Change is forced upon us and throws us into blind panic. At least for a little while. And that’s okay. Once the shock of change is over,.there are things you can do to help yourself…
GO BACK TO NATURE
You need to stay grounded and my favourite way of doing this is to GO BACK TO NATURE. It’s a way of reminding myself that some things do stay the same. I have a favourite ‘grounding place’ and spending time there helps me to put things into perspective. Find your grounding place and spend some time there.
The next thing to do is to ask yourself these questions:
- What does this mean to me?
- Is there anything I can control?
- What actions can I take?
- How Can I l accept and let go of the things I cannot control?
- Can I create something positive out of this?
- What is the best outcome for me in this situation?
- What actions can I take to make my path through this easier?
Considering these questions will help to reframe your thinking from ‘panic’ to ‘practical’ and help ease your way through. Follow these steps and dealing with change will be much easier for you.
If you want a little experience of my grounding place and for other ways of dealing with change– click here. Dealing with change
Do you have a grounding place? I would love to hear about it. Share it with us in the comments below.